- Place responsibility for misbehavior on the child..."you're telling me...(that you don't want to share this toy with Dylan)" instead of "you need to share"
- Don't nag or talk too much...otherwise you start sounding like the adults on Charlie Brown...also the kids won't take the first request seriously
- Set up 3 simple rules (which she says any 3 year old can know these rules and obey them...and it's like Love thy neighbor as thyself and Love the Lord thy God above all else...everything else falls under these 3 rules): Take care of yourself, take care of our family, take care of our home
- Keep your cool
- Follow through
- Say things other than "no" unless you absolutely need to say "no"
- Don't force a child to say "I'm sorry." Wait until they exhibit empathy on their own, then help them find the words.
- Catch them being good and praise them...sometimes in small ways but sometimes in big-deal ways
- Set limits
- Reinforce good behaviors
- "Fairness is when every child receives what he/she needs; fairness is not everyone getting the same thing."
Thanks for attending my class. Now, class dismissed.
5 comments:
I really like the one where I shouldn't say "you need to share" cuz I ALWAYS do that...sometimes it works, but I'll have to try out the other way to see if that works better.
Good tips! I'm going to only pick out 1 or 2 things from that list so I don't get the mommy-guilt trip!
No kidding...that's why I need a class like this every few months.
I made it a point to give my kids attention today, especially right after I was doing something when they didn't get my attention. It was a pretty good day. They didn't act up as much as they usually do. Now let's see if I can keep it up.
Isn't it so much harder than you thought? I find myself constantly reevaluating the discipline methods with Ella and as much as I would like to be consistant, sometimes I find myself too tired to get up and escort the child to time out (especially on days when Matt is gone from 5:30 am until 11:30 pm.
Good for you for making goals.
Thanks for sharing what you've learned. It goes right along with things I've learned all throughout my college days and in my career as a mom and as a Family Advocate/Teacher in Head Start. The challenge is to make these things second nature to you so you just automatically do them. It is hard when everything seems to be coming at you at once, or at dinnertime when everyone is hungry and you're stressed out. Keep a cheerful attitude and don't get overwhelmed by trying to be a perfect mom. I love you, Mom
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